MR: Hi, I'm Melissa Reeves
of DOOL. Now you know there have always been very complicated relationships
on soaps, but J&J - they seem to take the word complicated and bring
it to a whole new level.
SCENE: Jennifer crying in
kitchen before they kissed.
DR: (Soap Center consulted Dr.
Gilda Carle, author, psychologist and monthly contributor to SOD)
What is at the heart of J&J's problems?
SCENE: Jennifer crying to Jack
in kitchen, saying "This is about a relationship, Jack, that went
MR: It seems our whole relationship
has been obstacles that we have had to overcome.
MA: The problems in their relationship are mostly of
there are four traits that ultimately make for disaster in any relationship
and guess what? J&J have them all.
From the beginning, J&J's relationship was unstable.
DR: Beware of the
adage, opposites attract.
We started out as such adversaries and so completely opposite.
VO: Despite their differences,
the couple tied the knot in 1991.
from Jack's bedroom and the telephone.
These two people were headed for disaster because they never came
together with the same kinds of values.
J&J saying their wedding vows: Jennifer: "We made
it Jack, in spite of everything."
VO: Or so they thought.
MA: Jack was experiencing a fear of commitment
on every single level and still is.
telling Jennifer he loves her in the cave.
is certainly another indication that a marriage is not going to
last. Most commitment-phobes, like Jack, always have a justification
for their behavior.
mall by park bench where Jenn says "No I dumped you", and Jack saying
"Because you felt rejected".
From Abby's birth.
MA: (Talking over
scene) The reality is suddenly your becoming a "We" and there is
going to be another one on the way, and I think all that stuff is
freaking him out inside.
You know the whole thought of 'I'm going to have to provide for
them' just made him more neurotic and this is always their problem.
last day talking to Abby, kissing a sleeping Jennifer.
VO: When daughter Abby was diagnosed
with aplastic anemia caused by toxic waste in the community, Jack
accepted responsibility. As a young politician he allowed the dumping
of dangerous chemicals. His guilt leads to the third relationship
disaster for the couple.
Emotional distancing is another one of those four factors that certainly
signal relationship disaster.
He just decided he wasn't worthy of living and Jennifer should and
could and would do better without him and so he ran away.
SCENE: Jack leaving
house for last time.
MR: This is when Jennifer
really needed him the most and he again couldn't be there.
SCENE: By fire
Jack's absence left Jennifer desperate, vulnerable and divorced.
DR: In order for a relationship
to last two people have to be physically together.
In mall by bench: Jennifer says "You had all these schemes that
you chased all over Northern Africa leaving me and your daughter
high and dry.
Single, Jenn hoped to fill the void that Jack never could.
SCENE: Africa scene
out of lonliness...when Jack took off and here was this physician
who seemed to pay some attention to her and she just got overwhelmed
by the possibility of a fantasy love affair.
with Abigail after he kissed Jennifer.
VO: J&J, still divorced,
decided to live together for the sake of their daughter, but what
about the shape of their relationship?
MR: J&J's whole relationship
has just come to a boiling point and they don't know what to do.
DR: So here are the options:
J&J can either split up entirely so that they don't have to demonstrate
this kind of constant tug of war in front of their daughter.
Abby coming into B&H's kitchen and saying "You're
doing it again."
can get some professional help. J&J..., I'm available.